It’s Not You, It’s Us.
Was she kidding? I’d spent $55 getting my hair freshly coiffed for my day of back-to-back interviews in their offices, $80 on a gorgeous (slightly used) DKNY velvet blazer and was more than qualified! Wait, was that it? Was I overqualified?
Your qualifications likely had nothing to do with it – and I bet your (slightly used) coat looked fabulous! The reality is that landing a new job is like landing a spouse. It’s not as easy as some people think!
Dating and Job Searching are so much alike it’s scary and sometimes an employer just isn’t into you. You can wear a beautifully tailored suit, shine your shoes, put your best foot forward and know that you truly are the “best” candidate for the job but if the fit isn’t there it doesn’t matter. We all know what it feels like.
Think back to the last time you went on a first date, an interview or on the schoolyard playground. You want so bad to be chosen, to be “the one”. Sometimes it’s just not your turn. I’ve had plenty of days when I wanted to be “the one” and it wasn’t my turn.
If you’re interviewing remember that when decision day comes, if the employer “just isn’t into you” it wasn’t the right fit. My Mother would say “When one door closes, another one opens” and I suppose that’s true although it’s hard to see the open door with a closed one in your face (sorry, mom. love you.)
I say to approach each event, be it life, dating or job searching, with a sense of gratitude. Find a way to be grateful that they weren’t into you and know you have something better in store for you ahead. Send the decision maker a “thank you” note (I wrote a blog a few months ago with a sample one) to let him/her know that you appreciate being considered and wish them the best in the future.
Another employer that cherishes your skills, energy and expertise will be totally “into you” soon and you’ll look back on this and smile.