Happy 13th Anniversary (or Not)

Posted: March 14th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Uncategorized | Comments Off on Happy 13th Anniversary (or Not)

Today is my Anniversary. Let me start by saying I’ve never been very good with dates, particularly Anniversary dates but this one was easier to remember this year. Despite the reminder I had, I still didn’t remember until mid-tooth brushing and even then I had to grab my crackberry to double check that I had the date correct.

Yes, today is March 14th.  It’s definitely my Anniversary. 13 years ago today among nearly 150 friends, family and assorted other folks who claimed to be family, although I don’t recall every having met them, I was married.  That’s right, today is my Wedding Anniversary.

Make It A Double
job search frustrationIt’s also another Anniversary; 5 years after I was married, the very same week, in front of no one special and without any special attire or flowers, I was divorced. What had taken 14 months of planning and endless hours of conversations down to the tiniest detail took less than a 30 minutes to unravel in a bland court proceeding that neither my now ex-husband and I were present for in-person. Amazing, sad and true that our divorce did not have even the two of us present yet our marriage had over 150 of us present.

I wonder what would have happened if all the wedding guests would have been required, or at least requested, to attend the divorce proceedings to watch the union they witnessed dissolve in front of the eyes? What impact would that have had on each of them? How had their lives changed in the 5 years that we were married?

Time Changes Us
Over the years we all change in our own ways and that’s the primary reason our marriage didn’t last. He changed one way and I changed a different way (I say he went left; I went right). Many times no one’s right or wrong, it just is what it is. When you look at your life and determine where you’re at, be it in your relationships or in your career, take a minute to consider how you’ve changed and what impact those changes have had on the world around you.

Then and Now
13 yrs ago when I was married, I was the only married member of my family, was the aunt to one 3 yr old nephew, lived in the suburbs of Colorado and enjoyed my successful Fortune 500 HR career. Today, I’m a single gal loving the city life in Chicago, have 4 nephews (that 3 yr is about to get his driver’s license – ahhh), have had a successful career coaching practice for 10+ yrs and am ready to find the guy that I hope to someday build family of my own with (applications being accepted).

career focusIt’s All About You
Why share my anniversary with you? During times of change – career or relationship – things can seem frustrating or confusing – and that’s when you need to stay focused and motivated. Keep on track and know that working a strategy will result in a positive outcome. You may not know exactly what lies ahead (I had no idea I’d have four beautiful nephews at this point) yet it will be exactly what’s supposed to be for you.

If you’re wondering how a single city gal celebrates her 13th Anniversary (5 married/8 divorced); she goes on a date! Wish me luck….

Spring Forward to Career Success

Posted: March 12th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Career Coach, Job Search Networking | Comments Off on Spring Forward to Career Success

There comes a time when you realize that one more gray day is just one too many. Another gray sky or 40 degree forecast is going to make you wake up and think, “I need to get away this weekend.”  Last week I woke up to a rainy day and jumped out of bed grateful as can be. Why?

Spring Job Search Success
Rain meant it was too warm to snow! The winter is gone and it’s time for Spring. In fact, as a little reminder, tonight (or for you night owls like my brother that are still awake at 2a.m., tomorrow morning) is when we Spring Forward with our clocks. That means we’ll have one more hour of daylight and I, for one, am grateful for that.

Spring also means time for renewed success on the career search front. In the past month, clients have been having more success than in the past 10 months and that’s good news for everyone. Employers are interviewing…and extending offers to the candidates they like best. It certainly looks like the only thing in bloom this season won’t be flowers; jobs will be springing up along with our favorite florals.

If you’re still experiencing a drought in your job search it might be time to spring into action and take a new route.  Do you need to do some spring cleaning on your resume or LinkedIn profile? What about your perspective on the market? Has the winter gotten to you in more ways than one?

Embrace the shift in the market and spring forward to success in your search!